Does Love Stink?

An experiment was conducted where six men were to wear a T-shirt for two nights in a row. They were instructed not to wear deodorant or soap, so women could more easily pick up their Major Histocompatibility Complex (MHC). Women were then given the six T-shirts to smell.

Three of the T-shirts had MHC similar to them and three had MHC that was different. The women found that the T-shirts with the different MHC reminded them of past or current boyfriends while the ones with the similar MHC reminded them of family members.

Also, women who were on birth control chose the T-shirts with the similar MHC. Scientists speculate that the birth control often tricks the mind to think it is pregnant and therefore uninterested.

For all the women who think they are crazy and keep dating the wrong man, well maybe your birth control is choosing him for you through scent. Now, if you decide to go off of birth control as an experiment to see if you are attracted to someone new, please do not forget this “experiment” when you are out at the bars enjoying libations. The objective here is meant to create happy dating lives not babies.

Scientists found that females are more likely to choose a mate who is not closely related to themselves. This would allow the offspring to carry different genotypes, having stronger immune systems and a better chance at surviving.

This makes sense because my boyfriend Mike will eat something off of the floor (five second rule need not apply), get three hours of sleep and still spend the next night out drinking, doesn’t obsess about washing his hands and is never sick. I on the other hand, wash my hands the minute I walk in the door, would never eat food off of the floor and if I get anything short of my eight hours of sleep my voice becomes hoarse. (I’m getting a tickle in my throat just thinking about it.) It may be a small case of hypochondria but I still feel every symptom, and it hurts. You can never be too careful!

Hopefully, our kids get his immune system.

In Marie Claire’s June issue, was an article titled, “Scent of a Marriage.” It was about a woman who didn’t like the scent of her husband, but he had all the other qualities she was looking for. Eventually, they had too many differences and divorced. She then remarried a man with a scent she was instantly attracted to. While they still have their differences, it’s been several years and they are still happily married. She attributes the attraction she still has for her second husband to his scent.

As a follow up, a woman responded to this article saying that she was engaged to a man who had an intoxicating scent. She then went on birth control and the hormones made her hate his smell. She ended up finding a birth control that allowed her to enjoy his scent again and they were able to reconnect.


Love Maps and David Bowie

John Money, an internationally known psychologist and sexologist, says the reason we are attracted to certain people is because of our Love Maps. Love Maps, develop between the ages of five and eight in response to anyone who may have had an impact on our lives. As children we are collecting data of certain mannerisms and temperaments of others that have made impressions on us. Money believed that we develop a template in the mind depicting the idealized lover. Then, when we actually see someone who fits these images we fall in love with him or her. The recipient may not be an exact fit, but we overlook the inconsistencies and often project these images onto them.

Hi Kari. I just got done fighting the enemies. I’m going for a ride on my motorcycle now.

There are two movies I remember watching as a little girl that made me aware of my sexuality. The first was Top Gun.

I remember watching it in the theater. There I was, seven-years-old, legs barely hitting the floor. My eyes fixated on his white t-shirt, leather jacket and slicked back hair…Maverick.

He flies jets. He rides motorcycles. I knew one day I was going to marry Maverick and he would fly into my Dangerzone. I pictured him leaning against that jukebox playing You’ve Lost That Lovin’ Feelin’ for me. This was the best movie I’d ever seen. Until then, I’m pretty sure my favorite movie was Care Bears.

Jareth, Goblin King

And now, David Bowie…

The second movie that had me hot and horny at an unusually young age was Labyrinth. It came out the same year as Top Gun but I didn’t see it until years later. And when I did, Maverick became a distant memory.

How was Jennifer Connelly cast in this movie and I wasn’t? Maybe I was a little prepubescent (turns out being nine years old, I still had about another nine to go) and perhaps I didn’t have long black flowing hair (it was more of a mousey redish-brown, cut to my ears and permed), but if Jereth was surrounded by goblins there’s still a chance he would have found me desirable.

I’ll admit, watching it today, the Goblin King’s level of infatuation is a little creepy, but there’s something hot about those long blond locks and those “come hither” eyes. I could never look that good in makeup. He was the man I always wanted lusting over me and the woman I could never be.

To Be or Not to Be…Married.

I was never the little girl who imagined her wedding. I still can’t, not without anxiety. I once had a dream I was getting married, but I was running so late, I missed my own wedding. And that’s the closest I’ve ever come to my “dream wedding”.

I am thirty-one-years old. I’ve been in a committed relationship for seven years.

I started this blog to write about marriage. I want to know everything: what attracts us to each other, why we choose the mates we choose, how to survive each other during, and if possible, how to come out happy in the end.

Today, more people than ever are choosing not to get married. According to 2010 census figures, only 30% of people between 18 and 34 years are married. This is the first time in our culture where couples are choosing to stay together as life partners in a committed relationship and not tying the knot.

And so the question remains, to be or not to be married?

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