Love Maps and David Bowie

John Money, an internationally known psychologist and sexologist, says the reason we are attracted to certain people is because of our Love Maps. Love Maps, develop between the ages of five and eight in response to anyone who may have had an impact on our lives. As children we are collecting data of certain mannerisms and temperaments of others that have made impressions on us. Money believed that we develop a template in the mind depicting the idealized lover. Then, when we actually see someone who fits these images we fall in love with him or her. The recipient may not be an exact fit, but we overlook the inconsistencies and often project these images onto them.

Hi Kari. I just got done fighting the enemies. I’m going for a ride on my motorcycle now.

There are two movies I remember watching as a little girl that made me aware of my sexuality. The first was Top Gun.

I remember watching it in the theater. There I was, seven-years-old, legs barely hitting the floor. My eyes fixated on his white t-shirt, leather jacket and slicked back hair…Maverick.

He flies jets. He rides motorcycles. I knew one day I was going to marry Maverick and he would fly into my Dangerzone. I pictured him leaning against that jukebox playing You’ve Lost That Lovin’ Feelin’ for me. This was the best movie I’d ever seen. Until then, I’m pretty sure my favorite movie was Care Bears.

Jareth, Goblin King

And now, David Bowie…

The second movie that had me hot and horny at an unusually young age was Labyrinth. It came out the same year as Top Gun but I didn’t see it until years later. And when I did, Maverick became a distant memory.

How was Jennifer Connelly cast in this movie and I wasn’t? Maybe I was a little prepubescent (turns out being nine years old, I still had about another nine to go) and perhaps I didn’t have long black flowing hair (it was more of a mousey redish-brown, cut to my ears and permed), but if Jereth was surrounded by goblins there’s still a chance he would have found me desirable.

I’ll admit, watching it today, the Goblin King’s level of infatuation is a little creepy, but there’s something hot about those long blond locks and those “come hither” eyes. I could never look that good in makeup. He was the man I always wanted lusting over me and the woman I could never be.


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